First, I’d like to give a special thanks to all of the people who asked me if I was expecting after I had already had my baby. Thank you for being so smart that you were able to see my baby fat, but not the tiny infant that I was carrying in a car seat baby carrier or pushing a stroller. You are also the same special people who would say “he”, when it is overwhelmingly obvious that I was holding my daughter, or “she” when I was clearly holding my son. It is perceptive people like you who really know how to make a new mom feel special!
Second, I’d like to thank all the women, and especially the fellow mother’s, who asked me that same dumb question under the exact same circumstances. As a mom, you should know better. I was young and ate my own foot once upon a time, but not with a woman who was carrying an infant and had clearly just had a baby, just to a woman who was a bit bloated at the time. Still not okay – Karma, I get it. I have not made that mistake since. I still wait until it is VERY obvious to tell a woman congratulations.
And lastly, to the fellow mom’s who not only asked, but proceeded to try to give me tips on how to get rid of my stomach when I was not even 2 months out of the delivery room, thank you. Silly me for thinking that recovery from a c-section was more important than quickly bouncing back. Last I checked, I didn’t have, nor did I need a personal trainer to take me from the delivery room to the runway 1 month after delivery. You all are amazing reminders of the fact that within every mom is a woman who has the potential to be rude just like everyone else.
Actress Tia Mowry did an interview with Essence.com after her second C-section about how she too had to learn to love her new body post-baby. I for one appreciated her honesty and could totally relate.
We, amazing women who carried life in our bodies, should be celebrated at every stage. If you see a woman who has children, no matter what she looks like, make sure to let her know how amazing she is for bringing life into this world and let her know she is beautiful!
Phew! Thank you for letting me get that off my chest!
Now, that being said, What the flab? Can someone please help me to figure out how to get rid of this flab of skin that remains on the bottom of my tummy? Since I have started my Journey Back to Me, I have seen a decrease in pounds, and I have noticed my body getting into shape as well. But, no matter what I do or how hard I suck it in (which is pretty much all I do…that and walk), this flab on the lower part of what was once my abdomen, refuses to go away. I’ll be honest, I never had an 8 pack, 6pack, or 4pack. I thought I saw a 2 pack once, but I was wrong. I’m pretty sure I had a 1 pack at one point, but I definitely had a flat pack. Now, it looks like someone took a book and smacked my stomach, and all the tummy fat dropped to the bottom. If you haven’t noticed it, it is not because I’m wearing spanks. It is because you just happened to catch me at a moment when I remembered to suck it in. If you looked away and looked back, I could very well have looked like I was 3 months pregnant. Seriously! In the exact same week, I went to one family event and was asked how many months I was. A few days later I went to another family event and my husband was told he was starving me…I kid you not.
So is life. It doesn’t bother me. I’m not getting in shape for anyone else, I am getting in shape for me. So I will do what I feel necessary until I feel like I have accomplished my goal. Thankfully I have an awesome husband who is up for trying random things with me. So I looked at the google play store about getting my tummy in shape and guess what? There’s an app for that. So, I downloaded it.
It said I could get a flat stomach in 30 days and my body was like –
So I set it to intermediate, then I looked at the workout for day 1 –
and my body was like –
And that was just day 1. But hey, this app looks pretty cool, it looks intense enough to produce some kind of a result within 30 days, and it was free so I figured, it can’t hurt. I’ll share before and after pics. I’m not expecting a 6 pack, but it’d be nice to get my flatpack back. At the very least, hopefully, I’ll be saying adios to my smack stack stomach that looks like the face of a confused old man.
I’m having way too much fun!
The P.I. Mom